Week #3: How to Pray: Connecting with God the Right Way
Blog Series Intention Recap
This four-week series approaches what it means to live a life of prayer. Starting with the difference between the joy of a real relationship through the gospel versus empty religious duty, this series will encourage students to develop a meaningful prayer life by overcoming distractions, prioritizing God’s presence, and using God’s Word as fuel for effective prayer.
This post is part of the series “Praying.” Click here to see the rest of the posts.
Let’s jump into Week #3:
Effective prayer is about approaching God with reverence, honesty, faith, and the truth of Scripture.
Why it matters:
Approach prayer with reverence, recognizing God’s holiness.
Be honest and sincere; God values authenticity.
Pray with faith, trusting God to hear and answer.
Use Scripture to guide your prayers and claim God’s promises.
Go Deeper
Learning to Pray Effectively
Prayer is how we talk to God and build our relationship with Him. Last week, we explored the different types of prayer: adoration, confession, thanksgiving, and supplication. Now, let's focus on how to pray effectively. Prayer is not just about saying words; it’s about connecting with God in a meaningful way. To do this, we need to approach prayer with the right attitude and mindset. Here are four practical steps to help you pray effectively.
Approach with Reverence: Remember Who God Is
When you pray, remember that you are speaking to God, the Creator of the universe. Hebrews 4:16 says, “Let us then approach God’s throne of grace with confidence, so that we may receive mercy and find grace to help us in our time of need.” This verse reminds us that we can come to God with confidence, but we should also approach Him with reverence.
Reverence means showing deep respect. It means recognizing that God is holy, powerful, and worthy of our worship. When you start your prayer, take a moment to remember who God is. Think about His greatness, His love, and His authority. This helps you to approach Him with the right attitude—one of humility and awe.
When you approach prayer with reverence, you are acknowledging God’s place in your life. You are recognizing that He is in control, and you are submitting to His will. This sets the tone for your prayer and helps you focus on God, rather than just on your own needs.
Be Honest and Sincere: God Values Authenticity
God wants us to be real with Him. Matthew 6:5-6 says, “And when you pray, do not be like the hypocrites, for they love to pray standing in the synagogues and on the street corners to be seen by others. Truly I tell you, they have received their reward in full. But when you pray, go into your room, close the door and pray to your Father, who is unseen. Then your Father, who sees what is done in secret, will reward you.”
Jesus teaches us to pray with sincerity, not to impress others, but to connect with God. When you pray, be honest about what’s in your heart. If you’re struggling, tell God. If you’re thankful, express it. If you’ve sinned, confess it. God already knows everything about you, so there’s no need to hide anything. He values your honesty and wants you to come to Him just as you are.
Being sincere in prayer means you don’t have to use fancy words or follow a strict formula. Just speak from your heart. God cares more about your honesty than about the specific words you use. When you pray sincerely, you open yourself up to a deeper relationship with God, one that is based on trust and truth.
Pray with Faith: Trust That God Hears and Answers
Faith is essential in prayer. Mark 11:24 says, “Therefore I tell you, whatever you ask for in prayer, believe that you have received it, and it will be yours.” This verse teaches us to pray with confidence, believing that God hears us and will answer our prayers.
Praying with faith means trusting God, even when you can’t see the results right away. It means believing that God is listening, that He cares about your needs, and that He has the power to answer your prayers. Faith is not just about getting what you want; it’s about trusting that God knows what’s best for you and will provide in His perfect timing.
When you pray with faith, you are putting your trust in God’s hands. You are saying, “God, I trust You to take care of this situation.” This kind of trust pleases God and strengthens your relationship with Him. Even if the answer to your prayer is not what you expected, you can have peace knowing that God is in control and that His plans for you are good.
Use Scripture: Pray God’s Promises Back to Him
One of the most powerful ways to pray is by using Scripture. Isaiah 55:11 says, “So is My word that goes out from My mouth: It will not return to Me empty, but will accomplish what I desire and achieve the purpose for which I sent it.” God’s Word is powerful, and when we pray using Scripture, we are aligning our prayers with His will.
Praying Scripture means taking the promises and truths found in the Bible and making them part of your prayers. For example, if you’re feeling anxious, you might pray Philippians 4:6-7: “God, You tell me not to be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, to present my requests to You. I ask for Your peace, which transcends all understanding, to guard my heart and mind in Christ Jesus.”
Using Scripture in your prayers helps you to pray in line with God’s will. It also strengthens your faith, because you are reminding yourself of God’s promises. When you pray Scripture, you can be confident that you are praying according to God’s truth and that He will accomplish His purposes in your life.
Scriptural Support: The Lord’s Prayer as a Model
In Matthew 6:9-13, Jesus gives us the Lord’s Prayer, which is a model of how to pray effectively. The Lord’s Prayer includes all the elements we’ve discussed:
Reverence: “Our Father in heaven, hallowed be Your name.” We start by recognizing God’s holiness and greatness.
Sincerity: “Your kingdom come, Your will be done, on earth as it is in heaven.” We sincerely seek God’s will above our own.
Faith: “Give us today our daily bread.” We trust God to provide for our needs.
Scripture and Confession: “And forgive us our debts, as we also have forgiven our debtors. And lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from the evil one.” We confess our sins and ask for God’s guidance and protection.
The Lord’s Prayer is a simple yet powerful example of how to pray effectively. It teaches us to approach God with reverence, sincerity, faith, and to use Scripture in our prayers.
How does this help me understand, “Praying?”
A Challenge to Pray Daily
Effective prayer is not about using the right words; it’s about connecting with God in the right way. By approaching prayer with reverence, honesty, faith, and Scripture, you can strengthen your relationship with God and experience the power of prayer in your life.
I challenge you to set aside dedicated time for prayer each day. Start by following the steps we’ve discussed. Begin with reverence, acknowledging who God is. Be honest and sincere in your prayers, telling God what’s on your heart. Pray with faith, trusting that God hears and will answer. And use Scripture to guide your prayers, aligning them with God’s will.
As you practice these steps, you will find that your prayer life becomes more meaningful and effective. Prayer will no longer be just a routine, but a vital connection with God that brings peace, guidance, and strength to your life.
